To Market, To Market

My cousin’s pig got loose and wandered down the road into the local general store, where it ate a loaf of raisin bread.

That is all.

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Camping with the Russians

We needed a break.

It had been a long time since we’d adventured anywhere, plus we were both really stressed out – E from starting a new job and me from wedding planning gone awry.  I don’t know whose idea it was to go camping (oddly enough, I think it was mine), and I don’t know whose idea it was to strike off for Western Massachusetts (I think it was E), but Friday afternoon found us stuffing the car with our camping equipment and following the Mohawk Trail (aka Route 2) into parts more or less unknown.  E had called around to a few campgrounds that were either full or not answering their phones, but had managed to find one out past Williamstown that promised to have sites available despite the holiday weekend.  Normally not having a reservation would have unsettled me to no end, but this time I didn’t care one bit.  I just needed to get away!

It’s a beautiful drive out through the Pioneer Valley and into the Berkshires.  Route 2 winds through all sorts of little valleys and vistas, including one hairpin turn as you descend into North Adams, providing this view of the mountains and the city they encircle:

north adams

We pulled into the campground a little after six, with plenty of daylight left to set up camp and build a fire for dinner.  We drove down a wooded and winding little lane before coming upon the campground entrance, which included this Cold War-era looking bunker:

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It’s not that uncommon to see structures like this; there are several places we hike that used to be part of Fort Devens and were used for military training, so we’re used to seeing this sort of thing from time to time.  Still, it seemed out of place at a campground.  In fact, it felt like it belonged on an episode of Lost.

We entered the office, overseen by a blond-wigged mannequin, and were shortly welcomed by the elderly owner of the campground who, among other things, said he’d never been on the internet or Facebook.  “That Facebook, that’s what you all use to talk to each other now?” he said, waving a hand in dismissal.  “One of my customers built me a website but I’ve never seen it.”  The more he talked about his land, his efforts to go off the grid, and the wind farm that he lost out on, the more goosebumps I got up the back of my neck.  I just knew there was a story there; there were so many questions I wanted to ask that I started to feel dizzy.  E filled out the paperwork as the owner told us all about the campground amenities, which included a sauna.  “The sauna’s free this week because the Russians are here,” the man said.  “Those Russians, they love their sauna!”

I began to really wonder about that bunker.

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Approximately twelve minutes later, in the midst of setting up our tent, one of the tent poles broke.  E just bought this tent last year and this was only the fourth time we’d used it, so it was doubly annoying.  I suggested duct tape, and off E went to borrow some from the owner.  A few choice words later…

tent broke

It survived the weekend, which was nothing short of miraculous given the deluge of rain we got on Saturday.  The rain meant that hiking was out of the question, as was a fire for cooking breakfast, so after finding a diner for eggs and pancakes we drove over to MassMoCA for a few hours.  We were both enthralled with the landscape photography of Clifford Ross, who couldn’t find the sort of camera he wanted so built one himself, as well as Eclipse, a project about passenger pigeons.  We also marvelled at the work of Korean artist Ran Hwang, these complex mosaics of pins and buttons (I thought they were paper disks!) painstakingly arranged in the shape of birds – phoenixes, actually.  One of the coolest installations we saw are the trees outside, which were planted high off the ground and upside down (Natalie Jerimijenko, Tree Logic).  Despite their inversion, the trees nature to grow away from the ground and towards the sun kicks in.  (It was actually pouring out when I took this picture with my phone; I have no idea why it looks like a blue sky!)

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Back at the campground, my imagination ran away from me for a bit – what with the bunker and the Russians and campground roads named after planets…oh, it was too much for me!  As usual, reality was much more prosaic.  There was, in fact, a group of Russians staying at the campground; their kids were fluent in English though so my guess is that they are immigrants who just happen to come every year for a vacation.  The bunker – at one time an emergency shelter – has actually been converted into a power plant, enabling the campground to run on its own hydro power.  We were offered a tour, but we had to get back.  Upon returning home, I found part of the campground owner’s story.  I just know there’s more.

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Wedding Planning Observations

Well.  Now that EVERYONE can get married (hurrah!), let me share some observations I have garnered over the past two months.  I should point out that I’m 44 years old and getting married for the first time, plus I’m not a size two – so, by all accounts, I’m not exactly the wedding industry’s ideal customer.   Your own mileage may vary; however, I expect I’m not alone in a lot of this…

1)  Pinterest and Etsy are like crack.  Step away from the computer!

2)  Everything costs more than you think it will.

3)  Vendors will either spam you to death or won’t return emails and phone calls.  There’s no in-between.

4)  You’ll order invitation samples from all the online places and hate them all.  Then you will go to the stationary store down the street and fall in love with high-end letterpress invitations that cost almost as much as your engagement ring.  And then suddenly the samples you got in the mail won’t look so bad.

5)  Rustic isn’t cheap.  In fact, the worse shape a venue is in the more it will cost.

6)  You will change your color scheme because your 12-year old niece wants to wear a pink bridesmaid dress.  In fact, you were pretty certain this was going to happen because she’s been talking about a long pink dress since she was two years old.  And, you know that in ten years no one will remember or care what color dress she wore except her.  And she will still be delighted.

7)  You will rail against country club weddings…and then find yourself booking one for three reasons:  a) the wedding coordinator there is the most normal person you’ve met in the wedding industry; b) the packages they offer are actually affordable (as these things go, anyway); and c) you give up trying to justify spending thousands of dollars to rent an empty barn, however beautiful it may be.  You will book a venue then cancel it two weeks later when you find out there will simultaneously be a bar mitzvah and a golf tournament happening during your wedding.  The empty barn suddenly seems worth the extra money.

8)  You will spend three days obsessing over “save the date” cards and then, on a whim, ask your niece to draw you one instead.  (Results TBD…but you won’t be surprised if she draws herself in a pink dress on it.)

9) You will walk around with a folder full of wedding contracts and price sheets.  And then you will dump iced coffee all over everything.

10)  You will find yourself incapable of having a conversation that does not involve wedding topics.

11)  At some point you will realize that you are going to miss the entire cocktail hour and all that spinach dip because you’ll be having pictures taken.  And that will make you sad…

12)  …but then the cake lady will contact you and schedule your tasting, and things won’t seem so bad.

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Where I Go KonMari, Part 1

Recently I was at a meeting and the facilitator asked a question, the gist of which was:

What one thing can you do to create more joy and happiness in your life?

Total no-brainer for me:  I need to get better organized.  It’s been a life-long problem, for sure.  As a kid my room was always a disaster, and I left a trail throughout the house.  The rest of my family are neat-freaks, and so consequently I mostly remember my childhood as a constant battle over cleaning my room.  That battle continued through college and into my work life, where I have had offices that looked like a paper factory exploded and my car at times has looked like a homeless person lived in it.  One might possibly think that right now, in fact.

Over the years I’ve gotten much better at work, but it could still use some attention.  When I lived alone it didn’t really matter; the cat certainly didn’t mind clothes and fabric everywhere as they were just more places for her to sleep.  Erik’s not a neat-freak, thank all that is high and holy, but he’s definitely had his moments when my clutter has gotten the better of him.  If I could contain it to one room he’d be happy, but I still have that tendency to leave a trail as I move from room to room in the house.  It’s really the only thing we squabble about, and so I’ve been trying to be better about it.  The problem is, the more I try to organize the worse things seem to get.

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I’m not a hoarder; I don’t really have trouble getting rid of things from an emotional perspective.  And I’m not an inherently lazy person either, though I can procrastinate with the best of them (exhibit A: this blog post).  I don’t have ADD or ADHD either (I actually asked my doctor about it last year and she laughed out loud, because of course I don’t).  I think that part of it is just obliviousness; I simply don’t see things, or if I do see them they don’t bother me the way they bother other people.  One of my nieces is like this too; she lives in her own little world just like I do.  Apparently a side effect of this type of residency is a messy room.

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Hearing me talk about my disorganization problem, someone recommended the book “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up“.  I had vague awareness of the author; I knew she was a Japanese woman who’s mantra is “don’t keep anything that doesn’t bring you joy“.  I didn’t know there was a book, though, so after my hair appointment yesterday I trotted over to the bookstore and found a copy.  It’s not a long book and I read fast, so before and after a short road trip to check out wedding venues (another post entirely), I finished reading it by bedtime.  This morning I woke up and decided to tackle step one, which is going through all your clothes.  The first thing you are supposed to do is put all of your clothes in one room.

Ha.  Riiiiiiiight.

I have clothes in the bedroom and the laundry room.  Nothing wrong with that, really; most people would have clothes in those rooms too.  However, I also have clothes in the bathroom.  And then, because our bathroom is small and the hamper sits just outside the bathroom door in what is effectively Erik’s office, I have clothes in Erik’s office too.  I also have clean clothes on the couch in the living room, waiting to be folded.  I also have a laundry basket in the kitchen.  I have a box full of clothes to donate in another room.  And there are also clothes in the car, things like sweaters that I wear to work but forget to bring inside – but also clothes in the trunk that I have been meaning to donate for over a year but keep forgetting to drop off.

It may take me a week just to get everything in one room.

to be continued…

 

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Where I Climb Another Mountain

Almost three years ago, I climbed my first mountain.  Honestly, it was so out of character that it was just as likely that I would commandeer the space shuttle, or become fluent in Swahili.  Climbing anything was not really my thing.  But I made it up there (mostly) and back in one piece, and I was pretty impressed with myself.  Driving home the next day I thought to myself, dammit, if I can climb a mountain I can find a boyfriend, and so that very night when I got home I dusted off my old Match.com profile and set to surfing.  I disregarded all my usual criteria – must have a PhD, must be very tall, must play guitar – because, let’s face it, that criteria?  not getting me anywhere.

Some hours later, I found the profile of a guy who seemed smart, funny, kind, and who liked both cats and hiking.  He did not match my old criteria, but there was something about him that made me pause before I hit “send” on that message.  Am I ready for this?  I asked myself.  But of course  I was.  I had just climbed a mountain.  I was ready for anything.

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On Saturday, I climbed another mountain, this time with that same man I messaged almost three years ago.  He was my boyfriend for a couple of years– but as of six weeks or so ago, he became my fiancee.  Apparently throwing out my (utterly ridiculous) criteria did the trick.

“We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”  ~Joseph Campbell

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We hiked Pack Monadnock, a smaller sister of Mount Monadnock – the first mountain I climbed.  About a third of a the way up Pack, there is an outcropping where you can see Monadnock.  It was a poetic moment for me to take this picture, knowing that I’d stood on that peak a few years ago, and thinking about what that hike had set in motion:

mount monadnock

I should pause here to say that I completely and totally lied to my parents about how I met E., because All People on the Internet are Murderers {present company excluded, of course} and thus, despite my advanced age, my parents had forbidden me to do online dating.  But one of the best things about E. is he cannot lie, or at least not very well, and so pretty early on my mom knew my story wasn’t the truth.  Here’s the weird part though:  about a year or so into our relationship we went to a cookout with E’s two best friends and their families, where I discovered that I had gone to college with his friend Dave for two years, and Dave had been good friends with my friend Diane and had also been roommates with one of my college boyfriends.  It was absurd, really.  I had to troll the internet for this guy, and it turned out we had three degrees of separation?  Ridiculous.  But it made me feel a whole lot better about the involvement of the internet.  It was simply a means to an end.  Or a beginning, really.

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I’m convinced we would have found each other somehow, eventually.

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Acton Arboretum (May 2015)

arboretum may

(I know shooting into the sun is against all the rules but sometimes, I can’t help myself.) 

orange tulip

white tulip

pink tulip

white double tuli

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A rare and much needed vacation day for this time of year, spent with the Very Excellent Fiancee (!).  It began with eggs benedict for breakfast…which may have been followed by french macaroons and cupcakes for lunch…and then a walk through Great Meadows National Wildlife Refuge in Concord (which, incidentally, now has a $4 entrance fee).  Spring feels so late this year, and even this first day of May was a little gloomy and chilly.  The critters are out and about though, nesting and issuing mating calls from the tops of trees, and nibbling on what is left of last year’s reeds.  Eventually I hope to get to a point in life where seeing a muskrat doesn’t trigger one (or both) of us singing the “Muskrat Love” song, but I’m not holding my breath.

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male woodpecker

handsome birdie

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painted turtles

muskrat lunch

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Finally.

Well.  That was a long, unintended break from writing and picture taking!  Honestly, March almost did me in.  I think it was TS Eliot that said April is the cruelest month but this year, it was hands-down March.  Anything that could go wrong did, and then some…plus it was cold and rainy.  It felt like spring was just not ever going to show its face, and I wondered if I’d just be cold the rest of my life.  Finally, though, this weekend was warm and sunny, for the first time in months.  We noticed that the frogs are peeping at night again and the red-winged blackbirds are back.  I raked a bit of the yard this morning and the unmistakable smell of spring wafted up from the dirt and I swear I almost cried, it had been so long!

This afternoon we managed to pull ourselves away from binge-watching Homeland (which I am now obsessed with) and drove up to the Ipswich River Wildlife Sanctuary for a little walk.  It was muddy in spots, and still some snow in others, but we happily tromped around the ponds and watched kids feeding the chickadees straight out of their hands.  Meanwhile, the resident bluebirds entertained us.  We also saw a deer, too deep back in the woods to photograph, as well as a cute little vole (sorry, Mom!), a couple of muskrats (cue this song), and lots of geese and ducks.

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Afterwards there was ice cream, the first of the season at our local ice cream place that’s been operating over 70 years.  It’s not much, but it’s a start – and I’ll take it!

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Winter Light

One of the things I like about this house is how the light comes through the windows.  In the morning, it streams in through the living room window providing excellent napping spots for the cats – and also an excellent place for a human or two to curl up with a book.  In the late afternoons, though, the sun sneaks into the back of the house, creating these weird dapples of light and shadow that aren’t particularly warm, but they are comforting.  As the days get a tiny bit longer now the light changes, it becomes a little bit more – dare I say – hopeful, or promising at the very least.  (The seven or eight feet of snow in the yard notwithstanding.)  It’s rare than I’m home before dusk sets in, but when I am I find myself wandering around upstairs, going room to room, watching the light move through the rooms, glinting off doorknobs and lampshades and in-progress projects.  In a mere half hour it’s gone but it will be back tomorrow, for a few seconds longer.

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winter light 1

winter light 3

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Oh Look, It’s Snowing Again

We have at least three feet of snow in our yard, possibly more, with two more feet predicted to land over the next two days.  I’ve spent the past two weeks arranging, then rearranging, my schedule – and I expect this week will see another round of it.  Mostly I think we should just all agree to postpone everything until March.

The other thing I’ve been doing is filling up the bird feeder.  There must be very few food sources around because our yard is teeming with birds, including a flock of juncos that leave funny little prints in the snow.  There are also a couple of pairs of tufted titmice (little gray birds with mohawks), a number of chickadees and sparrows, and a pair of cardinals.  Also, sort of oddly, I’ve seen a couple of robins up in the trees – I have no idea why they are still around, or what they are eating.  I’ve been trying to take pictures of the birds but the minute I open the door they scatter.  I finally caught the male cardinal up in the tree this afternoon, looking both plump and cold:

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???????????????????????????????For whatever reason, Dip leaves the birds alone – the only time she killed one was last summer when a nuthatch got inside the house, and we’re pretty sure it was half-dead when she got her paws on it.  The squirrels, on the other hand, get chased up trees.  Now we’ve seen Dip climb trees before, but when chasing squirrels she gets to the bottom of the tree and just sits there.  I have no idea why she doesn’t follow the squirrels up the tree but she doesn’t; she just sits there at the bottom of the tree until something else catches her attention.

Finally, in some other news, I got a haircut this weekend.  It’s about as short as it’s been in years, because I’ve finally reached the point where not only has keeping up with the gray become an exercise in futility, but the gray is stubbornly refusing to be colored anymore.  I swore I’d let it go when I turned 40, and then decided perhaps 50 was a better number…but alas, it wasn’t meant to be.  I had hoped to find a way to gradually transition it but short of shaving it all off, there’s really no good way about it.  (And really, I would shave it off if I thought I could get away with it at work.)  My hairdresser suggested that come spring I might consider going even shorter, but the shaved head idea aside I like keeping my hair long enough to at least tuck behind my ears when necessary.  So, not sure about that.  Luckily my hair grows pretty fast, so hopefully by this summer it will look better.  And next winter I can have silvery hair and wear black turtlenecks and channel my inner Diane Keaton, so all is not lost.

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